Boundaries after a Pathological Relationship By: Adelyn Birch (2014)
Description: If you were involved in a pathological relationship — or you want to prevent it from happening in the first place — this book is for you. It gets to the heart of the matter of personal boundaries. Identifying and setting clear boundaries is vital for survivors and for anyone who wants to become more confident, improve relationships, and prevent victimization. When you create boundaries you take a stand for yourself and your life, and you communicate your worth to others in a real and practical way. This concise and powerful book is filled with practical wisdom and useful tips. It will walk you through the process of creating boundaries from start to finish. You get to decide how you want to live. Find your courage. Live in an authentic way. Protect yourself and what’s important to you. Gain self respect and the respect of others. Boundaries will help you do all of these things.
Setting Boundaries with Food By: Allison Bottke (2012)
Description: For the fourth book in her popular Setting BoundariesTM series, Allison Bottke turns to our relationship with food, and a problem that affects more than 200 million Americans (68 percent of the adult population)—obesity. Setting Boundaries® with Food is a very personal book for Allison. She knows from personal experience about the struggle against obesity—feeling trapped in a seemingly never-ending cycle of dieting, deprivation, and despair. At one time in her life, Allison’s scale hit the 300-pound mark. Her overweight status resulted in Allison being the first full-figure model ever signed by the prestigious Wilhelmina modeling agency, where she worked for some of the biggest names in fashion, such as Gloria Vanderbilt and Alfred Angelo. From her struggle, Allison offers more than just hope for the future. By introducing readers to her popular S.A.N.I.T.Y. steps, she encourages readers to turn away from the insanity of dieting and deprivation and to focus instead on establishing healthy relationships with food, self, others, and God. Her words will strike a chord with millions who have struggled for years to lose weight as they are encouraged to examine the emotional and spiritual aspects of their bondage to food and obsession with weight.
Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children: Six Steps to Hope and Healing for Struggling Parents By: Allison Bottke (2008)
Description: This important and compassionate new book from the creator of the successful God Allows U-Turns series will help parents and grandparents of the many adult children who continue to make life painful for their loved ones. Writing from firsthand experience, Allison identifies the lies that kept her, and ultimately her son in bondage―and how she overcame them. Additional real life stories from other parents are woven through the text. A tough–love book to help readers cope with dysfunctional adult children, Setting Boundaries® with Your Adult Children will empower families by offering hope and healing through S.A.N.I.T.Y.―a six–step program to help parents regain control in their homes and in their lives.
Beyond Boundaries: Learning to Trust Again in Relationships By: John Townsend (2012)
Description: For when your trust has been broken: discover how to set firm boundaries again, how to connect deeply without being hurt, and how to safely grow your most intimate relationships. Painful relationships violate our trust, causing us to close our hearts. But to experience the freedom and love God designed us for, we eventually have to take another risk. In this breakthrough book, bestselling author Dr. John Townsend takes you beyond the pain of the past to discover how to re-enter a life of intimate relationships. Whether you’re trying to restore a current relationship or begin a new one, Townsend gives practical tools for establishing trust and finding the intimacy you long for.
Boundaries for Your Soul: How to Turn Your Overwhelming Thoughts and Feelings into Your Greatest Allies By: Allison Cook (2018)
Description: Let Boundaries for Your Soul show you how to turn your shame to joy, your anger to advocacy, and your inner critic into your biggest champion. Do your emotions control you or do you control your emotions? Boundaries for Your Soul, written by bestselling authors and licensed counselors Alison Cook and Kimberly Miller, shows you how to calm the chaos within. This groundbreaking approach will give you the tools you need to: Know what to do when you feel overwhelmed, Understand your guilt, anxiety, sadness, and fear, Move from doubt and conflict to confidence and peace, Find balance and emotional stability. Gathering the wisdom from the authors’ twenty-five years of combined advanced education, biblical studies, and clinical practice, this book will set you on a journey to become the loving, authentic, joyful person you were created to be.
Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life (Updated and Expanded Edition) By: Henry Cloud (2017)
Description: Boundaries is the book that’s helped over 2 million people learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of their lives. Does your life feel like it’s out of control? Perhaps you feel like you have to say yes to everyone’s requests. Maybe you find yourself readily taking responsibility for others’ feelings and problems. Or perhaps you focus so much on being loving and unselfish that you’ve forgotten your own limits and limitations. Or maybe it’s all of the above. In the New York Times bestseller, Boundaries, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend help you learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of your life and set healthy, biblical boundaries with your spouse, children, friends, parents, co-workers, and even yourself.
Where to Draw the Line: How to Set Healthy Boundaries Every Day By: Anne Katherine (2000)
Description: With every encounter, we either demonstrate that we’ll protect what we value or that we’ll give ourselves away. Healthy boundaries preserve our integrity. Unlike defenses, which isolate us from our true selves and from those we love, boundaries filter out harm. This book provides the tools and insights needed to create boundaries so that we can allow time and energy for the things that matter-and helps break down limiting defenses that stunt personal growth. Focusing on every facet of daily life—from friendships and sexual relationships to dress and appearance to money, food, and psychotherapy—Katherine presents case studies highlighting the ways in which individuals violate their own boundaries or let other people breach them. Using real-life examples, from self-sacrificing mothers to obsessive neat freaks, she offers specific advice on making choices that balance one’s own needs with the needs of others. Boundaries are the unseen structures that support healthy, productive lives. Where to Draw the Line shows readers how to strengthen them and hold them in place every day.
The Art of Everyday Assertiveness: Speak Up. Set Boundaries. Say No. Take Back Control. Get What You Want By: Patrick King (2019)
Description: Stand your ground without guilt, fear, or awkward tension. Finally get what you deserve and stop “letting it slide”. Who is making your daily choices for you? Is it you? Make sure you possess the everyday assertiveness to get what you want and resist the pressure to reject what you don’t want. You’ve put yourself last your entire life. It’s time for that to change. Stop enabling, sacrificing your needs, people pleasing, and being so “agreeable”. The Art of Everyday Assertiveness is a guide for the chronically “nice,” “overwhelmed,” and “accommodating”. It is a deep psychological dive into the beliefs that makes us lack assertiveness, and how to systematically combat and replace compulsions with healthy mindsets. This is a book that stands apart from others because of the plethora of real life examples and solutions. If your problem is assertiveness, you’ll find the step by step answer in this book – included is an Assertiveness Action Plan unlike any other. Gain respect, set boundaries, and ask for what you really want. Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. He’s also a recovering people pleaser who knows exactly how it feels to feel unable to speak his mind. How to decisively say NO and reclaim your time and energy Stop putting others first and being taken advantage of.*A wide variety of ways to say no – without tension or awkwardness.*Beating the subconscious beliefs that make you a compliant doormat.*How to set healthy boundaries and protect yourself from others.*How to ask for exactly what you want, when you want it.*The instinct to over apologize and how to fix it. Stop being a “helpaholic” and start treating yourself better. Assertiveness is the first step to creating the life you want – not the life someone else wants for you, or taking care of someone else’s to-do list. You’re not responsible for other people’s happiness. But you are responsible for yours. What makes you happy? Do that. What makes you unhappy? Avoid that. If other people interfere with this simple credo, assertiveness is what will save the day.
Boundary Power: How I Treat You and How I Let You Treat Me By: Mike O’Neil (1994)
Description: How I treat you, how I let you treat me, and how I treat myself. You can open a whole new way of successfully dealing with life’s challenges by answering the questions and acting on the information that you learn in each chapter of Boundary Power. You can take charge of your life, strengthen your character, expand your freedom, improve your marriage, and other personal relationships by learning by how to set personal boundaries in your life. The book includes: – clear definition of all boundaries as they relate to you relationally, spiritually, physically, sexually and emotionally – where you learn boundaries, the different kinds of boundaries, and the types of people with boundary problems – key questions to help you discover your own boundary problems – exercises that will help you resolve loses associated with abuses – exercises that will help you set clear healthy boundaries in all your relationships.
Empowered Boundaries: Speaking Truth, Setting Boundaries, and Inspiring Social Change By: Cristien Storm (2018)
Description: Explaining power and privilege and the links between individual safety and community safety, Cristien Storm shows readers how to set emotional boundaries that build vibrant social movements and a better world for all. As there have been increases in violence against women, people of color, immigrants, and LGBTQI identified people, there has been a corresponding demand for individual and community self-defense, boundary setting, and bystander trainings. Boundary setting can be used not just as a means for personal safety but as form of solidarity, resistance, and inspiration. From saying no to a boss who always asks you to work late, to setting a boundary with a loved one, to navigating an uncomfortable situation at the bus stop, Cristien Storm offers a new approach to verbal boundary setting that is accessible for all bodies and identities. Practical in scope, the book includes tools, tips, and strategies from Storm’s decades of experience leading boundary-setting workshops. Grounded in resiliency and trauma-informed theory, Storm pays particular attention to the experiences of women, people of color, immigrants, and LQBTQI-identified people, making this necessary reading for anyone looking to create healthier relationships and build stronger communities.
Boundaries with Teens: When to Say Yes, How to Say No By: John Townsend (2006)
Description: Helping Your Teen Be Responsible and Responsive The teen years can be challenging and even scary for parents and those involved with youth. Attitudes and behaviors of the adolescent can be unhealthy for him and for the family. However, good boundaries are the bedrock of not only better relationships, but also maturity, safety, and growth especially for teens and their parents. In order to help teenagers grow into healthy adults, parents and youth workers need to help them experience how to take responsibility for their behavior, their values, and their lives. Dr. John Townsend, coauthor of the Gold Medallion Award-winning book Boundaries, is a parent of two teenagers himself. With wisdom and empathy, he applies his biblically based principles to bear on the challenging task of the teen years, showing parents: * How to deal with disrespectful attitudes and irresponsible behaviors in your teen * How to set healthy limits and realistic consequences * How to be loving and caring while establishing rules * How to determine specific strategies to deal with problems both big and small The book begins by giving parents a way to look at adolescence itself, so they can better understand how a teen thinks, feels, and relates to others. Then it provides the nuts and bolts of what boundaries are all about and how to apply them. There are many topically based chapters devoted to specific problems, from moodiness to school problems to aggression. Finally, Townsend addresses the attitudes, conflicts, and difficulties of parents themselves, helping them resolve their own personal obstacles to being an effective maturing force for the teen.
The Power of No By: James Altucher (2014)
Description: “No” is sometimes the hardest word to say. It’s also the most necessary. How many times have you heard yourself saying yes to the wrong things overwhelming requests, bad relationships, time consuming obligations? How often have you wished you could summon the power to turn them down? Drawing on their own stories, as well as feedback from their readers and students, authors James Altucher and Claudia Azula Altucher clearly show that you have the right to say no: To anything that is hurting you. To standards that no longer serve you. To people who drain you of your creativity and expression. To beliefs that are not true to the real you. It’s one thing to say “No,” the authors explain. It’s another thing to have the Power of No. When you do, you will have a stronger sense of what is good for you and the people around you, and you will have a deeper understanding of who you are. Ultimately, you’ll be freed to say a truly powerful “Yes” in your life one that opens the door to opportunities, abundance, and love.
The Art of Saying NO: How to Stand your Ground, Reclaim Your Time and Energy, and Refuse to be taken for Granted (Without Feeling Guilty!) By: Damon Zahariades (2017)
Description: Stop Being A People Pleaser! Learn How To Set Boundaries And Say NO – Without Feeling Guilty! Are you fed up with people taking advantage of you? Are you tired of coworkers, friends, and family members demanding your time and expecting you to give it to them? If so, THE ART OF SAYING NO is for you. Imagine being able to turn down requests and decline invitations with confidence and poise. Imagine saying no to people asking you for favors, and inspiring their respect in the process. Amazon bestselling author, Damon Zahariades, provides a step-by-step, strategic guide for setting boundaries and developing the assertiveness you need to maintain them. You’ll learn how to say no in every situation, at home and in the workplace, according to your convictions. And best of all, you’ll discover how to get your friends, family members, bosses, coworkers, and neighbors to respect your boundaries and recognize your personal authority. In THE ART OF SAYING NO , you’ll discover: my personal struggle with being a people pleaser (and how I overcame the habit!). The top 11 reasons we tend to say yes when we know we should say no. 10 simple strategies for turning people down with finesse. why saying no to people doesn’t make you a bad person (the opposite is true!). The best way to develop the habit of setting personal and professional boundaries. How to know whether you’re a people pleaser (and how to gauge the severity of the problem)
Viral Parenting: A Guide to Setting Boundaries, Building Trust, and Raising Responsible Kids in an Online World By: Mindy McKnight (2019)
Description: A cross between Jen Hatmaker and Rosalind Wiseman, VIRAL PARENTING is a guide to raising responsible, safe, and communicative kids in the digital world. Mindy shares practical tools for having honest conversations with kids of all ages about privacy, bullying, respectfulness, and family time, while emphasizing the importance of trust and open communication. These strategies are timeless whether applied to texting, snapping, Facebooking, liking, or whatever social media platforms await us in the future, this book is ultimately about teaching children about personal responsibility and safety. Mindy shares practical tools for creating family rules for kids of all ages about privacy, bullying, respectfulness, and family time, while emphasizing the importance of trust and open communication. Using family contracts, guided conversations, device checks, and respectful but firm oversight, the McKnights have raised a close knit family and navigated the complexity of being world wide internet celebrities with grace. McKnight will show any parent of any child or teen how that’s done setting non-negotiable guidelines and offering a savvy perspective toward privacy that audience have been begging for.
A Young Woman’s Guide to Setting Boundaries: Six Steps to Help Teens Make Smart Choices Cope with Stress, Untangle Mixed-Up Emotions By: Allison Bottke (2014)
Description: The teen years, when you’re no longer a child but not yet an adult, can be hard. How do you deal with the stress of school, home life, boys, teen depression, peer pressure, and so much more? It’s never been easy to be a teen, but today’s world brings special challenges that require special skills. The good news is you can learn how to cope with all your stresses when you understand the power and freedom of setting healthy boundaries. You can experience God’s unconditional love and acceptance, and find the courage, confidence, and hope that will transform your teen years and become the foundation of your life for years to come.
Boundaries in Recovery: Emotional Sobriety Through Setting Personal Limitations By: Taite Adams (2015)
Description: Many in recovery love to think of themselves as unique and, in some ways, we really are. Often from either very dysfunctional homes or, having spent a significant portion of our lives in a chemical-induced fog, it’s no wonder that boundaries are either quite warped or simply non-existent when we finally clean up our acts and strive to live as productive members of society. Sometimes this is easier said than done and we find that our relationships with those about us could really use some work. We either love too quickly and too much or put up walls and don’t let anyone get close to us, fearing pain and rejection. These are all boundary issues and are a big part of emotional sobriety. Learning to set limits in recovery is a learned skill for many and it most certainly can be done. Boundaries in Recovery was written to help you do just that. Written by someone who has been there and has had the same emotional sobriety struggles as most, this book takes a look at setting limitations from the perspective of the recovering person. Whether you need to learn to set healthy boundaries with family, partners, children, friends, or business associates, guidance is given to help the reader recognize and set healthy limits. If you learn to honor and respect yourself, and treat others with the same dignity you would want to be treated with, your whole life will change for the better.
The Need to Say No: The Importance of Setting Boundaries in Love, Life, & Your World – How to Be Bullish and Not Bullied By: Jill Brooke (2013)
Description: Whether in love, work, family, or the world, the need to say no is sometimes imperative. And rather than accepting another transgression or being bullied, learning to set healthy boundaries is essential for our health and well-being. The Need to Say No includes helpful advice on how to say no without fear and without injury to either party so that you can set boundaries that lead to healthier relationships. Many people have to learn the skills to defend themselves from the inappropriate demands of others. Whether dealing with an abusive love partner, an inappropriate boss, a child that demands everything, or a societal condition that needs to stop, we have the power within ourselves to change the outcomes for the better: to be bullish without being bulldozed. The Need to Say No uses the metaphor of a bull to examine the behaviors of bullies and boundary violators, drawing from mythological, historical, and contemporary bull stories to identify ten archetypes of common aggressive personalities and how to deal with them effectively. Rich with quotes, illustrations, anecdotes, examples, tips, and more, The Need to Say No delivers a profound way to create peace at home, success at work, and real change in the world: by saying “no.”
Boundaries in Marriage By: Henry Cloud and John Townsend (2002)
Description: In Boundaries in Marriage, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, counselors and authors of the New York Times bestseller Boundaries, teach us that healthy boundaries are the property lines that define and protect you and your spouse as individuals. Once you have them in place, a good marriage can become better, and a less than satisfying one can even be saved.
Boundaries & Emotional Development: Boost Self Esteem & Assertiveness for Healthier Relationships with Inner Child Healing By: Sebastian Goff (2017)
Description: IMPROVE ALL YOUR RELATIONSHIPS Do you tend to struggle in personal or professional relationships? Do you find it difficult preventing others from walking all over you? Or do you simply feel that people don’t treat you with enough respect? If so, then it is likely that you have trouble establishing functional boundaries with the people in your life. Healthy boundaries allow us to enjoy relationships and connect with others in a harmonious way. They also serve to protect us and let other people know how we want to be treated. Unfortunately, many of us do not learn about setting boundaries and how to be assertive during childhood. This is often due to a dysfunctional upbringing which leaves wounds upon our inner child. This book will inform the reader the basis of boundary setting, through visiting their past, healing it and finally moving beyond. This will be achieved by demonstrating how to develop emotionally by improving self-esteem, which is a necessity of a healthy personality. With the information presented you will be able to begin setting healthier boundaries in all areas of life including family, work and intimate relationships.
Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty… And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself By: Dr. Aziz Gazipur (2017)
Description: Are You Too Nice? If you find it hard to be assertive, directly ask for what you want, or say “no” to others, then you just might be suffering from too much niceness. In this controversial book, world-renowned confidence expert, Dr. Aziz Gazipura, takes an incisive look at the concept of nice. Through his typical style, Dr. Aziz uses engaging stories, humor, and disarming vulnerability to cut through the nice conditioning and liberate the most bold, expressive, authentic version of you. You’ll discover how to: => Easily say “no” when you want to and need to. => Confidently and effectively ask for what you want. => Speak up more freely in all your relationships. => Eliminate feelings of guilt, anxiety, and worry about what others will think.
Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You By: Susan Forward (1998)
Description: “If you really loved me…” “After all I’ve done for you…” “How can you be so selfish…” Do any of the above sound familiar? They’re all examples of emotional blackmail, a powerful form of manipulation in which people close to us threaten to punish us for not doing what they want. Emotional blackmailers know how much we value our relationships with them. They know our vulnerabilities and our deepest secrets. They are our mothers, our partners, our bosses and coworkers, our friends and our lovers. And no matter how much they care about us, they use this intimate knowledge to give themselves the payoff they want: our compliance. Susan Forward knows what pushes our hot buttons. Just as John Gray illuminates the communications gap between the sexes in Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, and Harriet Lerner describes an intricate dynamic in The Dance of Anger, so Susan Forward presents the anatomy of a relationship damaged by manipulation, and gives readers an arsenal of tools to fight back.
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself By: Melody Beattie (1986)
Description: Is someone else’s problem your problem? If, like so many others, you’ve lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else’s, you may be codependent and you may find yourself in this book Codependent No More. The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America’s best-loved and most inspirational authors holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life. With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More is a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency–charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness.
